Sure, it's annoying when someone checks-in at every place they visit during the day, or when they tell us about every gym workout, food eaten, baby rollover, or mundane daily activity, but, you know, there's this thing called the "hide button." Utilize it instead of obsessing over someone's apparent over-use of the Facebook medium! We don't know why that person feels compelled to tell/show us these things, so why judge them? Maybe they're extremely lonely or bored. Or, maybe they've had other people expressing interest in knowing every little detail about their child's growth and development. Maybe they're adding all those pictures for their own record keeping purposes. Maybe they're checking in at a restaurant or showing/telling us the food they're eating because they didn't want to forget what they ordered for next time, or they want you to know how awesome it is so you'll be inclined to try it one time...not necessarily because they're trying to show off their hot date, expensive meal, or envious lifestyle. And, again, why the hell would it matter if they were?! YOU make the choice to log in to FB to view...no one is forcing you to view their life. I think we often forget that as both a viewer and poster, we have a choice to participate or not.
"Hi. My name is Claire, and I'm a Facebook addict....from 7:30am - 5:30pm M-F." Do you work an office job? Are you stuck staring at a computer 40 hours a week? Do you know the extent of misery and boredom that can result from this? Look, I've worked both an office job and a non-office job. When I was in a non-office position, I was never on FB. I was constantly walking around, often engaged in menial conversation with random people, and rarely found a chance to sit down. I do not prefer to check FB or search the net on my phone, so I was really MIA from the Facebook world for awhile (believe it!). So, I get it, and I think the majority of FB critics and naysayers are these non-office job workers. They don't get the monotony and feeling of entrapment an office job can provide. Facebook is an office worker's portal to the outside world! We can exchange small talk between our various tasks! It's a great relief! Also, this is not to say office workers are any less busy than non-office workers. We just don't move all day long! So, in the 15 minutes it takes for a non-office worker to walk to their car and drive to a meeting, and the 1 hour of talking you probably didn't do in that meeting, tacked onto the additional 15 minutes of driving back to the office, the desk employee has been sitting there, not talking to a soul, not burning 30 minutes driving to and from a meeting, doing their task that took 10 minutes...with the rest of that time to kill. Some days the office worker is stupid busy, and some days the office worker day is so slow and boring they want to stab their eyes out! Facebook is the best thing that happened for the office worker! It helps keep me sane at my job and in touch with some outside communication.
Here are some more complaints I hear about Facebook:
"I don't get on FB because people's publicized wonderful lives make me depressed." Well, whose fault is that? Sounds like a personal problem to me, not the poster's problem.
"She posts all the time; she's starving for attention." DING! DING! DING! You got that right! Someone's bound to be bored to death at work, a SAH mom starving for a break from toddler world and the endless amounts of chores to be done, or a lonely recent divorced person whose new routine of solitude is less than desirable.
"I can not stand to see any more baby pictures!" Well, maybe you can't, but I can bet there's a load of family members who can. Remember, a poster is not catering their every post to satisfy YOU. Again, learn to "hide" or log off, people.
"I can't stand reading all these posts from pious people wanting to fight about religion and politics!" This one is a personal pet peeve of mine. I hate it! BUT, I still understand that I choose to participate in Facebook, so I take the goods with the bads. Again, learn to silently disagree, brush it off, chuckle, and keep scrolling. If you feel the need to post a counter-argument comment to their post, then you are of no different status than that of the original poster.
"Facebook feeds narcissism." Again, sounds like a personal problem. If you can not engage in Facebook without being able to control the limits of your ego, then maybe you shouldn't be on there. And, should you waste energy obsessing over someone else's level of narcissism by the content of their posts? No. Again, learn to "hide" these people if it bothers you that much, or simply smile, give it a little chuckle, and keep scrolling down your feed. Their narcissism shouldn't affect the level of your own narcissism. And, it's not your job to police their self-esteem levels.
The bottom line: Is it really worth giving a shit about it all? Is it one's purpose to censor the content on FB or feel the need to publicly announce to all frequent FB posters that one's FB content is sub-par and should be removed? Why should/do you care?! Why does it bother you so much?! Sorry people, the invention of Facebook was a game changer in the communications world, and it's not going anywhere. Facebook has offered some brilliant advantages and and advancements I, for one, am happy to partake in. Practice some self-control (if you feel the need to), empathy for other's weak self-esteems, try to understand people's different personalities require different needs to be filled, don't feed or partake in posting practices you disagree with, realize the possible hypocrisy in your anti-FB statement before declaring it, and, most importantly, be aware that YOU have made the decision to participate in Facebook. Until you decide to deactivate your account, you have a cog in this machine. Start "hiding" people, and your FB life will be much more pleasant.